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Resolved Question: What should I do about my lying mother?
So, a year or so back (i think) my sister was 11 and i was 13 and told me she had been looking on my mums phone and saw texts like "send me a picture of your boobs please" etc. but seeing as she was so young, i told her it was probably nothing and a spam type message. eight months ago i met the most amazing person that has changed my life, and we've been together since. he told me his 'troubled' past and realized my teenage heartbreak before i met him was nothing. i became more curious a few months ago when i found a vibrator in her drawer and a magazine with a big section on men's penises so decided to look on her phone myself on holiday during april half term, i looked and saw things like "i'm looking at the picture of your boobs whilst stroking my cock" i was so shocked i ran into the bathroom and cried my eyes out. since i was on holiday, i couldn't receive hold of my boyfriend which made it harder to deal with. i didn't talk to my mum properly throughout the holiday and when i got home i stayed with my boyfriend as much as i could, i told him everything and although he didn't seem very comforting or helpful at the time, i understand his opinion. he asked me what would happen if i told my dad, and i said he'd most probably be upset and it'd hurt my family, and then he asked the same if i kept silent and i said i would be the only one that got hurt. i know it sounds horrible but i know he meant well, meaning more people would receive hurt if i said anything. anyway, the other day i found a long text in her drafts the message mostly said "we have different views on sex and being close, i want both and you only want sex. i know you have others too. i hate the way you ignore me at the club (a sports/social club we go to sometimes). ive given you so many chances and each time you've thrown them in my face!!!" ive seen them together and apart, i was up the club once with my boyfriend and his dad without my parents or sister and i caught him looking at me up and down, i caught his eye and just glared. whenever i go up the club i plug into my ipod and ignore everyone, even though it is rude as i have been going up there pretty much my whole life, i have to otherwise i become very mad. my boyfriend is the only thing keeping me together as he has been the hero of his family, especially when he was younger. his past still haunts him but he hides it so well. during a test at school last week, i wrote about her decision to hide a secret as an essay, hoping a teacher would become concerned soon. i have arrive across liars and cheaters in my possess relationships in the past and it hit me extremely difficult and this is just salt to the wound and ripped back open. i do try to be with my boyfriend alot nowadays to avoid anger but it has changed his family's attitude towards me, his sister thinks an old pal of his is much prettier than me, which is fair enough but his mum recently told him to find someone else because i receive on well with kids (due to the club) and she wants to look after kids if we have any. (i know thats extreme at 15 years old but he knows so much about me, he wants to understand+care and he's the best ive ever had.) also, seven months ago he tore his cartilage playing football and was unable to play sports so since then he has been there constantly for me, now he has had an operation, he can go back to sports which means less time with me and more in the cricket nets, the good thing is is that he trains at the club, but the bad thing is is that the man my mum is having a supposed affair with, works there. i am truly lost and i dont know what will happen if my dad finds out. my dad's 60 and my mum's 47, my dad had a son + daughter from a previous marriage and they both live in different parts of the country. i have my GCSE's coming up and i would like to sort this before then so i have no added stress. sorry about the life story, but i am so lost, i keep hurting myself as i am the only one that knows. thank you in advance xxx
23 May 2010, 7:37 pm | click here to view more
Resolved Question: Do extreme muslims just need to chill out?
I mean, i'm every for different ideas about how to live your life. But not drinking alcohol, being covered from head to toe, beheading and stoning adulterous people, blowing up buildings and planes with innocent people in(imagine a family getting blown up while going for a holiday). There's following religion, and there's being ridiculous. This is an opinion and is not meant to incite hatred. Discuss "aZ", YOU'RE A MORON
21 Jul 2010, 11:17 am | click here to view more
Resolved Question: What are some good comedy and drama movies for a sleep over for 2 adult females?
I am looking to receive some more movies for movie nite. And am wondering what comedy and drama movies to buy I have; Ace Ventura 1 and 2 Baby on board Big mamma's home Dumb and dumber Extreme Dating Ferris Bueller's day off glad Gilmore A comedy about life in america Liar Liar Marley and Me Mr Deeds Nothing like the holidays Nutty Professor 2 Running with Scissors Step brothers The Groomsmen Year one Yes man Air force one Human trafficking I adore your work Ladder 49 World trade middle As well as 3 classics: Gone with the wind Of mice and men To kill a mockingbird
26 Jun 2010, 6:26 pm | click here to view more
Resolved Question: Really needs some advice. I can't move on and it is affecting every aspect of my life?! Please help.?
I am sorry if this seems long.. but there is no other way to explain. My boyfriend broke up with me 3 months ago and disconnected his number 2 days later. He has never contacted me since. The story is way too long but here is some. We were together on and off for two years and knew each other for a few years before we got together. It was always him who left and would arrive back. He is 27, turning 28 this year and I am 21 turning 22 this year. • He has been married before and left his wife • Got together with me in.. june 08 (wanted to break it off in august but then he realised he was “in adore” with me. • Left me in dec, just before xmas and cancelled my holiday that I was meant to go on with him and his family. He told me... “i will back, i need to be alone for now”. • He still went on the holiday, obviously I didn’t. • During this break-up he mingled with numerous women, whilst seeing me still. I later found out that he met these women before we had broken up. He never ‘did’ anything with them when me and him were together, but the same day he broke up with me, that night he took one out.... • I told him to receive lost and I had enough • After 2 months he came back to me saying he was now ready for a relationship he just needed to be ‘alone’ and wooed his way in. • Got back together feb 09, but until september we always had fights. And he would quickly turn it around on me. He could never be in the wrong but was extremely good at me feeling guilty. • Would go out some nights(not contact me at every ) drunk off his face • 2 weeks after my 21st bday he leaves me (october). Two weeks later, he comes running back • Book another holiday to go on over the new year • He starts acting silly again and 5 weeks after getting back together he dumps me- again • This time I crack and scream and sob at him, he leaves me alone in a park at night time • He cancels the holiday the next day • But exactly a week later,he gets into contact with me • We meet up, he wants me back. Claims that he is crazy about me, he loves me more than he had loved his possess wife. I am for him. I am like his drug, he doesn’t need anyone else and even though we battle he will never leave me again.Acknowledges EVERYTHING that he has done wrong.. and i am very taken back by it every! Too good to be true... • Buys me flowers, and he cries because he is so glad and relived “im back” • Xmas comes around, promises me that he will never leave me again and I will never have to worry about him leaving. • Book a holiday AGAIN and this time.. we go on it, just after the new year. • On the trip I basically paid for a lot more than i could afford. (I am a uni student and he works full time getting good money) • Got back after 10 days, he turns icy.. only sees me like 3-4 times in 2 weeks and exactly 2 weeks after getting back... he dumps me. “Oh im not in adore anymore”, “I care for u but as a person”. “We need to go our separate ways”. • Leaves me in a park • D/c his number He spoke to my mum two months after we split saying how unhappy he is still, and he thinks of me everyday, he really did adore me. Blah blah. You can say “oh he is an asshole” etc and I know this, but I am finding it extremely difficult to move on. For some reason I still want him to receive into contact with me. I feel like i deserve more than how he left it and he owes me in some way? I know the relationship sounds bad, but we actually had some really good times. I feel sick thinking about him with other women and I don’t understand why i wasn’t good enough? Does he think there is someone better out there? Do you think he will change or will he always be like this? Normally in the past when he had left me, he would have rang by now. He is also an extreme mummys boy and devoted brother to his sisters. I know they influene him A LOT. I need advice.. please.
18 May 2010, 7:11 am | click here to view more
Resolved Question: Foster/foster-adopt parents, and formerly fostered people, what is your view on respite care?
For any who may not know, respite care is where foster parents care for kids in care if their usual foster parents need a break. I've always been in two minds about this, I recognise that fostering can receive extremely stressful at times and I realise that it's far better to seek temporary help than to risk not coping with the child/ren. However, I also feel that from the child's point of view it is yet another home, another set of strangers, another family to fit into, etc and can just unsettle them even further. What are your thoughts around respite care for 1) A foster carer who is sick, below extreme pressure etc and wanting a break, and 2) The foster family going on a holiday or break away without the child/ren they are fostering?
15 Jun 2010, 4:33 am | click here to view more
Resolved Question: I hate my best friend and want to end the friendship but don't want to hurt her...?
I should start by saying our friendship is clearly one of convenience, even if neither of us has ever said this. We started off in a group of a few people and saw each other as the best of a bad situation and made a friendship based on our mutual disdain of our social situations. This was around 4 years ago and since then we've been 'best friends'. I can't stand her anymore because I disagree with the majority of her actions. She treats me awfully but I don't think she realizes this. Last year we planned to go on holiday for a weekend together, just the two of us and have a great time. The day before we left she told me her boyfriend (of 2 weeks) was coming with us. I didn't want to seem petty so I said it was fine but every weekend I felt like a third wheel and a tag along even though it was the complete opposite. This sort of thing happens every the time and she constantly puts people she barely knows ahead of me. Moreover, she literally stole my personality and infuriatingly pulls it off better than me. I know this may sound stupid and impossible since I am the only 'me' but it really is true. Let's say I was a big fan of tennis: she would also become a huge tennis fan but go to the extreme of getting a coach, going to Wimbledon, wearing tennis whites every the time but not because she genuinely liked it, just to portray the image and be recognized for it. I'm not saying she wants to be me, I'm saying she wants to receive one over on me...or at least that is the way I look it. Despite every her short comings I do care about her feelings and don't want to hurt her by severing contact. I mean even if she treats me badly I do think she treasures my company. If she was anyone else I'd just phase her out by ignoring her calls and emails etc but since I am pretty much the only true female pal she has I feel like doing this would be cruel and I'd be abandoning her. At the same time I don't think I'd have the guts to go up to her face I say I don't want to be friends through fear of her reaction. Basically I don't want to hurt her feelings but I can't go on being friends with someone who makes me feel like ghost. What can I do?
29 Jul 2010, 6:42 pm | click here to view more
Resolved Question: Where in Italy should I go for a unique holiday?
I want to plan a holiday for two (friends/couple) to Italy for 2 weeks. I would like to know from people who are familiar with the country which places I should look. I don't mind traveling, but I'd rather stay at fewer places for longer periods of time. I want to avoid the usual "tourist tour" - I want to really look the heart of Italy and to socialize with the locals. I adore art, music, culture, unique towns/villages, the countryside, taking photos, good food, interesting people, learning new customs and I don't mind walking, extreme heat or odd meals. Please share any advice or experience you might have!
7 Jul 2010, 5:35 pm | click here to view more
Resolved Question: I feel dizzy and like im going to faint?
Ok so lately i have had extreme anxiety and haven't been able to snooze, eat or drink much for the last week. I was on holiday and had some scary stuff happen but i could have avoided but im only 16 so i didn't notice it. Anyway im ok now i just have bad anxiety and stuff and feel dizzy when i walk around. I know i haven't eaten much lately but im eating more now. How long until i feel good again? The last few days i was only able to eat a few pieces of bread a day before feeling like i was going to be sick from anxiety. What should i do? this morning i had a bowl of potato and leek soup to catch up on nutrients but i also have my period so that causing me to feel light headed? a family member is very sick and i went on holiday and got up to some bad stuff i have an iron tonic should i start taking it again?
11 Jul 2010, 12:02 am | click here to view more
Resolved Question: how can i lose weight? (im 14 ^^)?
Hello ^^ I am a 14 year old girl and guide a healthy life. I can't remember the last time I ate quick food, and my parents cook me healthy meals. I do a regular amount of exercise, and I don't drink soft drink (soda), EVER [I don't like it]. Now, I have a problem... I really want this boy to like me, but as compared to the other girls in my school, I am overweight. I am not fat, but the other girls are skinny and very beautiful. I weight about 68kgs, which is roughly 150 pounds, and I am 5'6. Holidays start in a week, and I would like to be thinner when I receive back from holidays. I don't want to focus on it my entire holiday, but I don't have a whole lot to do, so I would really like some weight loss tips that aren't too extreme. I've alot of things, and I've tried them, but they haven't worked. And most people are obese because they eat quick foods and drink soft drinks often, when I don't; so I really don't know what I do wrong... Thank you so much for any answers ^^ then, justin, you must be a skinny prick.
30 May 2010, 1:53 am | click here to view more
Voting Question: Which place should I choose to go for a holiday?
1) An island where they talk french with some students from school...we will be staying in host families and going to french classes each afternoon 2) Canada with my mum but she is going just after my spine surgery so i wont be able to do snow boarding or anything extreme 3) Australia with my mum, staying with her pal who has a geeky son a little younger than me as well as visiting other cities/states there 4) keep money for another trip (any ideas???) 5) OR i can not go anywhere and keep for when im older and when i leave home btw i like geeks...i didnt mean to sound insulting. I wanna be his friend
3 Jun 2010, 12:22 am | click here to view more
Resolved Question: Would you boycott Israel now?
The extreme actions of the commando raid resulted in 9 deaths. They could have escorted the flotilla to Gaza port and inspected the cargo. Instead they violently attacked passengers and commandeered the ships. I am so disturbed by this episode I am cancelling my holiday to Israel. I cannot spend money in a country that treats Gazans as sub-humans, controlling what food and medical supplies they receive every day. They are either paranoid or power-mad or both. Liora: I am addressing Israeli government policy, not speaking about the Jewish people. There are plenty of peace-loving Jewish Americans and Israelis on the left of the political spectrum working for alternative solutions. I am satisfied with my view of the incidents by first-hand accounts from passenger on the boats from videos. They were physically assaulted and beaten in the tiny boats. Several of them are from my local area in California. Israelis treated the aid convoy as if it were a war zone with their commando raid. They should have handled this very differently.
3 Jun 2010, 11:48 am | click here to view more
Voting Question: Im a Lesbian teen who needs advice...please!!?
Im not so sure as to where to even start..its about my gf(17 almost 18) and I(19)(im a girl). Im with my gf (well tbh Im not so sure where we stand atm) but weve been together 6 months but wanting to be together for over a year before that she was my best pal before we got together and she still is. So she came out to her parents in jan/feb they did not take it well at every, they took her phone made her delete her profiles online and watched her every move since then, shes not been allowed do anyting and shes just finished her leaving cert exams. She told them about me and they despised me from day one, not even having met me or knowing the first thing about me.They have belittled me to the ground and called me controlling, manipulating,saying I have mental problems,I think this is just them not wanting to accept their daughters sexuality and theyre taking it out on me as well as her , looking for any excuse.I did sneak down to look her and brought her down phones too which I know was wrong but I couldnt not talk to her ..like I do adore her. So we have had to sneek around to look one another and have only seen eachother 10 time apx and we said well be ok because we'd have summer but that didnt happen beacause she wasnt allowed do anything or go anywhere. Her parents are real conservative and only care about their possess family image from what I can gather. My gf was never one to be down but they are killing her emotionally and its heartbreaking for me to watch, her parents have threatened to clip her financially frm college and such if they hear about us, and this was before this happened.... Last Tuesday I drove to my gfs home(2 hr steer) because her parents were on holidays (we were supposed to be going to a music festival together for the whole weekend) her sister(24)and her brother(22) were away for the day working and such, we had an amazing day and quite literally just as I was walking out the door to go home her brother drove in from work and caught us. We werent doing anything and I wasnt even in the home at that stage ...then he went crazy saying he was going to tell their parents about everything , that she wasnt allowed go to the music festival and such. So that put alot more stress and drama onto what was already difficult. Her siblings were going to tell her parents when they came home from holidays, which was yesterday. So heres how they reacted.... They came home and her siblings told on her (I mean what nice of siblings are they that theyd tell on her just for me being at her home)anywho her parents didnt react straight away I think its because her brothers girlfriend was in the home but tardy last night they flipped...They accused her of being mentally unstable..WTF!!! and their reasons were because shes a liar (which she only did to keep herself out of trouble I mean what teen doesnt lie) they say shes kiniving and callous like how so I dont know beacuse they seem to think that shes gone out of her way to be gay and to hurt them. They only care about themselves and their appearance like they cant be doing this out of adore because theres nothing wrong with her or me...they are crazy!! They threatened to receive the police involved if we talked again and to receive a barring order against me..can they do that? like I no to keep a distance now but she had one of the phone I gave her and she told me every of this last night ..we decidied to leave talking to one another until like twelve o clock at night. They have taken her phone so I wish they dnt take this one too as they have found out I had sent her phones in the past. This is just pure ridicule they are going to extreme measures just so they can beat the gay out of their daughter and thats hearbreaking for me to watch she had such a big personality and now I can look them killing it and turning her into something they want her to be. She is questioning her possess sanity and mental well being beacause of their stupid accusations..I reccomended that she move out but she has no where to go and shed have no money..I told her she could arrive live with me and that she could receive financial aid from the government to go to college. I know family mean alot to everyone but what nice of a family are they?? like why cant they allow her to be glad?. In the last few days we came to realise our relationship was probably too unhealthy as it was based on phone calls and we were becoming reclused from our families so we decided to break up and it was so difficult emotionally and we wanted to be together but knew itd never work publicly but I cant let go of wish when our relationship ended for no reason , like we never battle and we can talk any matter out, shes someone I can look myself spending the relax of my life with, we talked about the travel and family we want to have together. We did arrive to realise that our relationship was too serious and that we'd need to start again. She was emotionally every over the place telling me she wanted
12 Jul 2010, 4:15 am | click here to view more
Voting Question: What to do in life atm ? ? ?
Hey, I have quite a few disorders (bdd, anxiety, severe depression) Im 19 and Will be 20 in Dec 2010 But Am trying to stay Upbeat and push on! , I thought where I lived uk was ok but recentley people are saying how shit ! it is & that they'd leave if they had the money as it's same old same old... My cousin Is 18 & went into the navy but it didn't work out so she went college and left beggining of 2010. And has lost 1 job and is working at a pub one day a week till' she can find work, But said if she had money she'd travel & move. MY bestmate is 19 & went college & left to Went to try and find work with her Boyfriend in europe for 2 weeks and came back but is now living up in Leeds with her Bf, and their looking for a flat, she said her life will be part time work and bf wants to go uni so how its gonna be for her next few years. Some of my mates are in part time store work and hate the pay! are bored to and are around 19. Some are in college still but are 17/18. Only a few with fulltime building work and ther in there 20's. AND some are 18 and pregnant or Broke uo with there partners etc...... SO i'd like to receive 5 Gcse's * and 4 Alevel's*, To work towards being A physiotherapist (Career) Go to Spain with family for a holiday AND Maldives with my mum and maybe a short trip to venice. To perfect lol my apperance (Bdd) as in a tan , microdermabrasion. receive a tattoo on my birthday on wrist, and look Russell howard live and john Bishop 2011. For The Moment that's my list then it'd be more holidays, extreme sports and saving saving saving. What do you think , does this sound ok , good ? Or should I just do what my mates/family are doing and go college and receive an ok job ? <3 Thanks
9 Jun 2010, 8:49 am | click here to view more
Open Question: !!! Guy Friend Advice please !!! <3?
Hi guys, I know I keep asking questions on the same topic, every related to the same guy but I find it easy to ask on here as it is an environment so removed from reality, where no one is exposed to the situation in question, and therefore, can give totally objective and truthful answers. So, I don't want to bore you every again but...here it goes. I talk to this guy every the time on msn, he's a close family pal, and like what happens with every friends, conversations do die occasionally. I'm hoping that when we visit his family on holiday and I look him face to face again, maintaining an engaging conversation will be easier as we can react and comment on things that are going on around us. But anyway, he makes me giggle a lot, and although we like totally different things ( music, hobbies, etc ), our personalities compliment each other, and we receive along very well. Typically, he's not my type, but he's I think he's got an extremely infectious grin and gorgeous eyes:) He does act differently around me however, he seems shyer and more reserved. I receive the impression that he wants to receive to know me better, but doesn't know how. We joke around quite a bit, more through actions rather than words I have to say. To start with he just used to avoid me and was extremely shy, but last year, it every kinda changed, and he just wanted to be wherever I was, for instance, we went shopping, and knowing the nice of person he is, that's not his kinda thing, but he came anyway. Also, he jumped in the pool with me at like 12am for a bet, and obviously got completely drenched, but still seemed totally glad about it. Background story over and I wish you're not every dying of extreme boredom, I just want to know ways to build up the confidence to act completely comfortable around him. I don't want to be awkward around him, and I want him to know that I value him so much as a pal, and I don't think he realises that completely. look, I don't want to flirt as such, but I just want him to know he doesn't have to be so shy around me. Breaking the touch barrier would be great, but not in THAT way, just in the touchy feely way you would with any pal-hugging and stuff. Thank you so much if you have managed to read every of this, it's greatly appreciated. No silly comments please :) xx
27 Jul 2010, 2:44 pm | click here to view more
Resolved Question: Guinea pigs and extreme heat?
My neighbours went on holiday last week. They bought two guinea pigs a few months ago and keep them in a wooden hutch in their garden. They have a seperate enclosed pen on the other side of the garden that I think they play in at times. When they left, they asked if my sister would check them in the morning and evening and make sure they have water and food (lettuce, cucumber and tomato slices they gave her in a bag). I don't think they have had guinea pigs before and my sister definitely hasn't, but they said it was fine and they would be alright as long as she didn't pick them up or take them out of the hutch as they would receive nervous. They left Thursday night and she went round to check them early the next morning. The hutch was in the shade and she said they seemed okay to her (she assumed anyway - she hasn't had any experience with guinea-pigs, but they were munching on the lettuce and drinking). She gave them an extra water bottle as it was a hot day (we have had a strong heatwave here) and made sure they had enough food. She was worried about the heat and went round early to check on them in the afternoon instead of the evening and the hutch was now in direct sunlight. One of them had already died (we guess of heatstroke) and the other one couldn't move properly and was clearly suffering. The hutch was really really hot and stuffy (we had trouble lifting the top as it was so hot). She called me over and we tried to receive the other one to drink some water and opened up the top of the hutch and every the sides to receive some air moving through and blocked out the sun. I don't know if we did the right thing or not, but I tried to chilly the guinea pig down with some wet, chilly straw . The owners said not to touch them, but we couldn't just leave it! It also seemed as though it was panting and breathing very very quick). I know with dogs you shouldn't give them very icy water if they have heatstroke as it could shock them, so we gave it water from the tap (nearer room temperature) and tried to receive it to drink, but it wouldn't. We called the local vet and they said to put it in a travel cage (we have a smaller one that my brother's dog uses) and bring it in for them to look at. We tried to keep it in the shade and drove 5 minutes to the vet, but it stopped breathing as we arrived and the vet couldn't revive it. I don't know if we made it worse or what we should have done? They told us not to take them out of the hutch, but I can't believe keeping them outside on a very hot day can be any good and since then one of my friends has told us that they don't like to be close in for ages (it would have been for 4 days). I know nothing about guinea-pigs either, but it didn't seem right at every! The hutch also seems far too tiny for them. The vet said they were about a year old and they didn't have a lot of room to move around in. We feel absolutely terrible and we will have to tell them when they receive back from holiday. They have two young kids and I'm sure they will be upset (I know we were and we had only just seen them). We also don't know the family very well as they only recently moved here, so we don't know how they will react. We did everything we thought would help keep it alive (obviously we were too tardy to help the other one), but it was a total guess and maybe we did more hurt than good!? Can anyone tell me what we should have done (in case we are ever in a similar situation) and if we made things worse? Would they have been in serious pain? The one that we found dead seemed to have been dead a while, so we are hoping it was quick. I just feel awful though! I hate animals suffering and they were only next door to us! Maybe if we had gone over even earlier then we might have noticed the hutch was over heating and could have moved it or something! I'm wondering if the neighbours moved the hutch recently and didn't know it would be in the sun? I don't know what to tell them though and can't cease thinking about it! My sister is too upset to tell them, so I've said I will. I went back this morning to check on their fish and had a closer look at the hutch. I cleaned it out as it smelt bad and got rid of the straw. The entire hutch is encased in clear plastic with a hand-sized hole ripped into the front on one side. Over that is another layer of material. I didn't notice this the other day as we were too busy trying to keep the animals. I'm guessing they thought it would protect them from rain or predators, but it must have made the inside of the hutch even hotter! The style of the hutch is like the one at the top of the page on http://tipdeck.com/how-to-build-a-rabbit-hutch except the cage is only two thirds that high and only two thirds as wide (if that), with a partition in the middle making two 'rooms'. I didn't have a tape measure, but it definitely seems WAY too tiny now that I've had a closer look. It isn't much bigger than the guinea pigs themselves and I can't look how they could have moved around easily. I'm more mad than upset now!
11 Jul 2010, 1:23 pm | click here to view more
Resolved Question: Recommending a holiday in spanish.?
I need to know how to say "I reccomend a holiday at a English beach if you are not keen on extreme climates" I have this so far, could you correct if wrong please? yo recomendar un vacaciones a la playa....
2 Jun 2010, 9:46 am | click here to view more
Resolved Question: Advice please. Heartache is almost unbearable and I can't let it affect my life anymore!?
I am sorry if this seems long.. but there is no other way to explain. My boyfriend broke up with me 3 months ago and disconnected his number 2 days later. He has never contacted me since. The story is way too long but here is some. We were together on and off for two years and knew each other for a few years before we got together. It was always him who left and would arrive back. He is 27, turning 28 this year and I am 21 turning 22 this year. • He has been married before and left his wife • Got together with me in.. june 08 (wanted to break it off in august but then he realised he was “in adore” with me. • Left me in dec, just before xmas and cancelled my holiday that I was meant to go on with him and his family. He told me... “i will back, i need to be alone for now”. • He still went on the holiday, obviously I didn’t. • During this break-up he mingled with numerous women, whilst seeing me still. I later found out that he met these women before we had broken up. He never ‘did’ anything with them when me and him were together, but the same day he broke up with me, that night he took one out.... • I told him to receive lost and I had enough • After 2 months he came back to me saying he was now ready for a relationship he just needed to be ‘alone’ and wooed his way in. • Got back together feb 09, but until september we always had fights. And he would quickly turn it around on me. He could never be in the wrong but was extremely good at me feeling guilty. • Would go out some nights(not contact me at every ) drunk off his face • 2 weeks after my 21st bday he leaves me (october). Two weeks later, he comes running back • Book another holiday to go on over the new year • He starts acting silly again and 5 weeks after getting back together he dumps me- again • This time I crack and scream and sob at him, he leaves me alone in a park at night time • He cancels the holiday the next day • But exactly a week later,he gets into contact with me • We meet up, he wants me back. Claims that he is crazy about me, he loves me more than he had loved his possess wife. I am for him. I am like his drug, he doesn’t need anyone else and even though we battle he will never leave me again.Acknowledges EVERYTHING that he has done wrong.. and i am very taken back by it every! Too good to be true... • Buys me flowers, and he cries because he is so glad and relived “im back” • Xmas comes around, promises me that he will never leave me again and I will never have to worry about him leaving. • Book a holiday AGAIN and this time.. we go on it, just after the new year. • On the trip I basically paid for a lot more than i could afford. (I am a uni student and he works full time getting good money) • Got back after 10 days, he turns icy.. only sees me like 3-4 times in 2 weeks and exactly 2 weeks after getting back... he dumps me. “Oh im not in adore anymore”, “I care for u but as a person”. “We need to go our separate ways”. • Leaves me in a park • D/c his number He spoke to my mum two months after we split saying how unhappy he is still, and he thinks of me everyday, he really did adore me. Blah blah. You can say “oh he is an asshole” etc and I know this, but I am finding it extremely difficult to move on. For some reason I still want him to receive into contact with me. I feel like i deserve more than how he left it and he owes me in some way? I know the relationship sounds bad, but we actually had some really good times. I feel sick thinking about him with other women and I don’t understand why i wasn’t good enough? Does he think there is someone better out there? Do you think he will change or will he always be like this? Normally in the past when he had left me, he would have rang by now. He is also an extreme mummys boy and devoted brother to his sisters. I know they influene him A LOT. I need advice.. please. Um satan claws. I dont think you have a clue what you are on about. Not one word you said made sense. cease with the drama. You will be a difficult ass to date. And he was not committed to other women when I dated him. Where the hell did you tug that from? I am asking for advice, not nonense. receive a heart. and another thing. I KNOW that relationships arent every about kisses etc why the HELL do you think i am upset? I WANT to work at the relationship, not friken run as soon as the going gets tough, like he did. receive your facts right.
18 May 2010, 8:13 am | click here to view more
Resolved Question: I think i have a mental disorder i think about sucide a lot lately?
Ok so im 16 and my dad has being diagnosed with cancer and is dying. My dad and i are close i tell him anything no matter how bad i feel and i trust him 100% I feel like nothing matters anymore and that every i ever loved is being taken away so why not cease being so good and do something bad its not like it can receive worse. That's how i have being thinking right now but i went on holiday with my family and it got a lot worse. My cousin hes a ex drug addict with a bad past, really bad and has used drugs and is a bit mental. So we were shopping and i was so glad to be getting to know him cos hes 4 yrs older and stuff and we got on so well and just shared feelings. We were shopping and he was stealing and i knew and said cease before its to tardy but he laughed and said no way man i do it every the time. I was having so much fun i didnt care and was like its not me taking it so who cares. Tehn he said tell me what u like and sick take it but i didnt tell him anything but i told him when ppl were watching. The next day i felt bad i had no snooze and told my dad what happened. He was glad i knew it was bad but i should return it so i did well i went it and pretended to tug it off the rack and paid for it. I felt good with myself but also felt sooo bad for the stuff he wouldnt return. I still did what i could. The next day i was in town and talked to some druggies who were nice and i was a tourist so i told them were i was from and how much i like it. I told them my name and age cos they offered me smokes and i said im to younge and one introdiced himself so i did to just my first name though and they were odd but not harming me so i chatted for a minute. Then it got odd and he was like i might be ur dad im from ur town then i got scared and left. It seemed ok to start with talking to randoms but now im scared they will hunt me down or that i caugh some disease from talking to them. Its like bad i shouldnt have talked to them in the first place but i dont want to be rude to someone whos just trying to be friendly no matter how odd they are. So at home in my hotel room i have a break down and screamed and like was punchiny my hands against the wall and had bad anxiety. I hate feeling like everything i do it wrong and i dont think much of it at the time its like everything freaks me out im worried about disease from talking thats it to some high druggies and being stalked by them. I mean does that sound over the top to you? Im younge and still learning i dont 100% know they were on drugs but they didnt seem normal at every. On the plane i was so scared of being hunted down i was almost crying and i havent eaten anything for a few days cos im scared. I mean what if they were not on drugs just really odd and have some mental disorder and are onto me. Is that to extreme? i talked to them for a minute or two and told them my first name, where im from and age. They werent trying to hurt me or anything but got a bit sexual when i left. But on the plane i was so bad i was thinking i should just kill myself now and now suffer through the stalking and stress, how easy. I know thats not healthy to think but its what im thinking at the moment so help me what should i do? link to the story about the druggies: http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AhTqh212ZU4SMy9vayEpO1zsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20100709080420AAB2Iqv
9 Jul 2010, 11:22 am | click here to view more
Resolved Question: Should I feel guilty about cutting contact with my family?
My parents were abusive to me for 17 years. Extreme physically and emotionally/verbally. They deny this. Also, my two aunts were gift when they would hit me with umbrellas and such. They never did anything about it. My two aunts buy me a lot of things and such. However, I can't help but feel mad. Same with my parents...they claim they do so much for me by buying me things. I am moving in two weeks to another state. I am 21. I will have my possess place, etc. I know my parents will be PISSED when I don't arrive home for holidays. I know if I keep contact with them I will have to hear to their hurtful comments they'll make when I don't arrive home; like "you're so rude" " you're unbelievable" "what the hell is wrong with you?" and my brothers comments how I'm crazy ever since he found out I was in counseling he uses it against me. Should I just stick to my guns when they try to say these things to me and keep contact to a very minimum? They always toss how they do things for me and buy me things in my face.
18 Jul 2010, 4:19 am | click here to view more
Resolved Question: How to show him I really value our friendship.?
Hi guys, I know I keep asking questions on the same topic, every related to the same guy but I find it easy to ask on here as it is an environment so removed from reality, where no one is exposed to the situation in question, and therefore, can give totally objective and truthful answers. So, I don't want to bore you every again but...here it goes. I talk to this guy every the time on msn, he's a close family pal, and like what happens with every friends, conversations do die occasionally. I'm hoping that when we visit his family on holiday and I look him face to face again, maintaining an engaging conversation will be easier as we can react and comment on things that are going on around us. But anyway, he makes me giggle a lot, and although we like totally different things ( music, hobbies, etc ), our personalities compliment each other, and we receive along very well. Typically, he's not my type, but he's I think he's got an extremely infectious grin and gorgeous eyes:) He does act differently around me however, he seems shyer and more reserved. I receive the impression that he wants to receive to know me better, but doesn't know how. We joke around quite a bit, more through actions rather than words I have to say. To start with he just used to avoid me and was extremely shy, but last year, it every kinda changed, and he just wanted to be wherever I was, for instance, we went shopping, and knowing the nice of person he is, that's not his kinda thing, but he came anyway. Also, he jumped in the pool with me at like 12am for a bet, and obviously got completely drenched, but still seemed totally glad about it. Background story over and I wish you're not every dying of extreme boredom, I just want to know ways to build up the confidence to act completely comfortable around him. I don't want to be awkward around him, and I want him to know that I value him so much as a pal, and I don't think he realises that completely. look, I don't want to flirt as such, but I just want him to know he doesn't have to be so shy around me. Breaking the touch barrier would be great, but not in THAT way, just in the touchy feely way you would with any pal-hugging and stuff. Thank you so much if you have managed to read every of this, it's greatly appreciated. No silly comments please :) xx
23 Jul 2010, 2:44 pm | click here to view more
Resolved Question: Should I test?? please?
im due for my period in about 6 days. my husband and I really tried in may to receive pregnant I was ovulating over the holiday weekend (29th 30th 31st and 1st.) we had sex the 29th 30th and 1st. For the past week i have had nausea breast tenderness and shakiness and constipation and EXTREME fatigue. Should I test or wait for my "missed period'. I know you every answer theses a hundred times a day. i know the only sure way is to test and find out. but i have been trying for over a year now and this is a very touchy subject for me so if you could just keep your answers nice and encouraging i would really appreciate it. Thank you and god bless
9 Jun 2010, 4:24 pm | click here to view more
Voting Question: Can you read and give me advice on my CV - about me section please? First CV, i am 15. thanks?
Hi, basically this is my first CV and i have just written the 'about me' section, and would appreciated any advice on how to enhance it please? I am 15, 16 in august, and looking for a part time job. Can nobody put any stupid comments please, any help would be great :) x I am a enthusiastic, passionate and outgoing person, and am optimistic about life and the future. I am very difficult working and put my every into any job given, to receive it done to the best of my ability whilst encouraging others to do the same. I am confident and like to be creative, and original. I adore to meet new people and would say I have a easy going nature. I asked some of my friends to describe me and they said I am outgoing, focused, and willing to try anything, which I would have to agree with. I would say I can be academic as my grades show, but I find the balance between studying and having fun. I have a lot of hobbies and do a lot of volunteering through school which I adore. People say i am a born leader, and I have won awards and gained qualifications for my leadership style.; I am true to my star sign which is Leo. I adore to encourage and motivate as many people as I can, and be very positive towards any situation; I like working with people and being part of a team. I adore to learn new things, and pick things up quickly. I am organized and don't often forget things, which is essential cause of my busy life. I am a sport enthusiast and like keeping fit, I have been playing football for over 10 years now and adore it. I also like extreme sports and adventure trips, and have been skiing several times and adore the mountains; also trips to Snowdonia (Wales) for adventure holidays which were amazing. I am also a bit of a ‘foodie’ and adore to try new things. I enjoyed my time at school and am looking forward to studying at Towers 6th form from September, where I will be studying; English, Biology, Photography, Public services and completing a CSLA (community sports leadership award), With the future ambition of going to university. Good point thanks dude :)
30 Jun 2010, 8:25 am | click here to view more
Resolved Question: what are the best things to do/places to go while holiday in new zealands north island?
planning a trip to new zealands north island around september this year for my partner & myself. where are the best places to visit? things to do? i will be about 5 months pregnant then so no bungy jumping or extreme sports for me.. any ideas? only planning on being there for a week/ week and a half max. thanks.
8 Jun 2010, 2:35 am | click here to view more
Resolved Question: Weight loss on phentermine?
I was prescribed phentermine by my doctor 2 days ago, im 19 years old, my starting weight was 157lbs and my height is 5"4. I lost about a rock last year exercising and extreme dieting and it took ages to arrive off. I wore my body out completely. i managed to put every the weight back on again after my holiday, I need to lose about a rock again and keep it off this time but I don't want to wear my body out again because I don't have as much time on my hands to exercise to the extreme that i did last year, so this is the reason that i have turned to phentermine to help me along the way. Anywayyyy... so i started taking phentermine yesterday (2nd july 2010), i found it worked really well for me, I did not want to eat at every, although i did force myself to eat some fruit, salad, chicken and veg and lots and lots of water! Im a student nurse, so im currently working 12 hour shifts on my feet Pretty much every day, and i usually need alot of food for energy, but I wasn't lacking in energy at every... I did receive a very dry mouth, which in some ways isn't too bad as it makes me drink more water. I went for a run today and haven't really eaten much today as its my day off, but i stepped on the scales and i've lost 5lbs in about a day and a half?! Is this too much?? Is there anyone that had used phentermine and lost about 14lbs in a month?
2 Jul 2010, 10:22 am | click here to view more
Resolved Question: if i spend 3 months on very low carb... how much weight loss?
Im 16 years old and have been battling with my weight for the past 4/5 years (since being diagnosed as diabetic) i have tried alot of diets, lifestyle changes, hacking the gym and eating a balanced diet, the only one which ever worked was when around 2 years ago i decided to cease eating alot of carbs, i didnt excercise at every more than walking to school and back and walking the dog, this was the only time i actually lost any weight, though i cant remember how quick or extreme this process was. Im wondering if i were to basically clip out my carbohydrate intake (dont say this is impossible because i am not saying i will eat 0 carbs but i will only eat protein and green vegetales and healthy fats) how much weight do you think i could lose in 3 months, i want to know because im sick of being overweight and want to have confidence when i start college as my appearance has been making me very depressed lately. im around 5ft 6/7inches and i weigh around 12 and 1/2 rock :/ YUCK! i know you will reccommend cardio but for the next month i wont be doing any of that as i am currently sitting my exams and spend my spare time revising or jsut having a break, the gym is not something i want to go to at this time. However in the preceding two months i will be able to spend my summer holidays out exercising or at the gym :) please ask if more info is needed x
20 May 2010, 2:36 pm | click here to view more
Resolved Question: Guy Friend issues. Advice please !! <3?
Guy pal troubles, advice please :) !!? Hi guys, I know I keep asking questions on the same topic, every related to the same guy but I find it easy to ask on here as it is an environment so removed from reality, where no one is exposed to the situation in question, and therefore, can give totally objective and truthful answers. So, I don't want to bore you every again but...here it goes. I talk to this guy every the time on msn, he's a close family pal, and like what happens with every friends, conversations do die occasionally. I'm hoping that when we visit his family on holiday and I look him face to face again, maintaining an engaging conversation will be easier as we can react and comment on things that are going on around us. But anyway, he makes me giggle a lot, and although we like totally different things ( music, hobbies, etc ), our personalities compliment each other, and we receive along very well. Typically, he's not my type, but he's I think he's got an extremely infectious grin and gorgeous eyes:) He does act differently around me however, he seems shyer and more reserved. I receive the impression that he wants to receive to know me better, but doesn't know how. We joke around quite a bit, more through actions rather than words I have to say. To start with he just used to avoid me and was extremely shy, but last year, it every kinda changed, and he just wanted to be wherever I was, for instance, we went shopping, and knowing the nice of person he is, that's not his kinda thing, but he came anyway. Also, he jumped in the pool with me at like 12am for a bet, and obviously got completely drenched, but still seemed totally glad about it. Background story over and I wish you're not every dying of extreme boredom, I just want to know ways to build up the confidence to act completely comfortable around him. I don't want to be awkward around him, and I want him to know that I value him so much as a pal, and I don't think he realises that completely. look, I don't want to flirt as such, but I just want him to know he doesn't have to be so shy around me. Breaking the touch barrier would be great, but not in THAT way, just in the touchy feely way you would with any pal-hugging and stuff. Thank you so much if you have managed to read every of this, it's greatly appreciated. No silly comments please :) xx
25 Jul 2010, 3:58 pm | click here to view more
Voting Question: How long can you be dialated for before going into labor?
My last OB appt was last Monday and at that time, she told me that I was a good 3cm dialated, but my cervix hadn't started thinning yet. Should I be on pins & needles during the next few days, or could it still take a few weeks before labor starts? I'm a little over 38wks. now and am having the back pain, lower abdominal cramping & extreme perinneal pain. With the holiday approaching this weekend, I'm tempted to go to a family gathering, but am not sure about traveling with everything being so close. What's your opinion? By the way, this is my second child. Had my son when I was 34 wks.
1 Jul 2010, 5:12 pm | click here to view more
Resolved Question: could microgynon 30 be the reason for my EXTREME anxiety?
Hi, I started taking the contraceptive pill (microgynon 30) nearly 4 weeks ago now and i got to the end of the active pills in my first pack. However last tuesday night I started feeling really anxious and depressed and so i decided to cease taking them on thursday (eventhough it was only the dummy pills left anyway). At first these feelings were so unbelievably intense that I really thought I couldnt cope...at one point I really just wanted to die. And in the last couple of days it eased off slightly, I still receive attacks of anxiety where I really panic about it. The way I've been feeling honestly terrified the **** out of me - for the first four days or so I came off it I was crying constantly, I felt SO anxious....my boyfriend is going to Reading at the end of July to do a work placement for the year and I'll be going to Leeds at the end of September to go to university (assuming I receive in now as this has really screwed up my exams quite a bit) and I started panicking that we wouldnt stay together and that i'd be heartbroken or that i'd miss him even though he has said that we'd try to make it work! And now today I just thought "maybe I should end it with him now so I can start getting over him and I'll cease being anxious" which I know is ridiculous because I do adore him and he's a great guy and even when he was at uni in sheffield and i was at home we made it work. i think maybe in some ways i need to cease being so reliant and dependent on him for happiness (ie. ween myself off him in some ways) and go out with my friends etc. so that I won't miss him so much when he's gone and I can rely on myself more for happiness. I'm so confused :'( I'm supposed to be going on holiday in 2 weeks with my friends to Majorca and i also panic that i'll start feeling anxious when i'm there (I know it sounds totally ridiculous....I receive anxious that i'm going to receive anxious and that's one of the most frustrating things). It's also very odd because sometimes I really look forward to it and i think it'll be good for me to receive away and be distracted with going out and partying, lounging by the pool with my friends etc. and then...BAM...i'm in exactly the same state again and I'll be panicking about it. When I receive these attacks of anxiety I honestly receive so scared I sometimes think I can't cope and I worry that I'll be out there in Majorca without my mum to reassure me (she's been like my rock in the last few days, the amount of times I've broke down in tears to her is unbelievable). And then other times i'll be fine! it's the strangest and most terrifying thing I've ever experienced, at some points I want to go out clubbing with the girls because I think it'd be good for me to be more independent and self-reliant but other times I can't face the thought of it and I worry I'll have an anxiety attack. So anyway, I was wondering if the hormones in the pill could have this effect? especially as I am only 18 and it was my first pack? I honestly sometimes think I'm going crazy so any advice is REALLY appreciated I don't know what else to do :/ xx
23 Jun 2010, 2:18 pm | click here to view more
Resolved Question: how can you still be civil with your ex-gf when she hurt ur feelings?
PLEASE READ. I NEED EXTREME HELP HERE!!! its been about 9 months since we broke up but it was during college and i didnt have time to sit down and receive over it the normal way. i had to put it to the back of my mind and wait till this summer to receive over it. she was a nice girl but during the relationship there were some disappointing aspects that i didnt like that made me have mix feeligns with her. i liked the girl alot but she would talk great about her friends, which most of them were her ex's. she wasnt good at converstation, me ending up having to make up the subjects to talk about but then she would kill it by just saying idk or something like that. she would hang out with her friends alot more than me when we were together. and i guess the last thing was she wouldnt open up at every about her feelings nor when we kissed and such i didnt feel anything from her. it was like kissing the wall. but other than that she was a good gf but you can look what i had to deal with. she said she wanted to be friends and she tried calling me but only on the holidays. never in between. then i didnt hear from her for months and just a few weeks ago she added me as a pal and i accpeted but she wouldnt talk to me at every when she was on and i just got aggervated and got rid of her. i still nice have feelings for her but idk what to do or how to be civil if i she her. so what can i do? is there something im missing that could better the situation? i mean how can i be friends with her when she did that to me during the relationship and now we dont even look each othe rmuch and idk what she is thinking? thanks
18 Jul 2010, 8:46 pm | click here to view more
Resolved Question: Can't move on. I know I should, but I can't. Need advice, please?!?
My boyfriend broke up with me 3 months ago and disconnected his number 2 days later. He has never contacted me since. The story is way too long but here is some. We were together on and off for two years and knew each other for a few years before we got together. It was always him who left and would arrive back. He is 27, turning 28 this year and I am 21 turning 22 this year. • He has been married before and left his wife • Got together with me in.. june 08 (wanted to break it off in august but then he realised he was “in adore” with me. • Left me in dec, just before xmas and cancelled my holiday that I was meant to go on with him and his family. He told me... “i will back, i need to be alone for now”. • He still went on the holiday, obviously I didn’t. • During this break-up he mingled with numerous women, whilst seeing me still. I later found out that he met these women before we had broken up. He never ‘did’ anything with them when me and him were together, but the same day he broke up with me, that night he took one out.... • I told him to receive lost and I had enough • After 2 months he came back to me saying he was now ready for a relationship he just needed to be ‘alone’ and wooed his way in. • Got back together feb 09, but until september we always had fights. And he would quickly turn it around on me. He could never be in the wrong but was extremely good at me feeling guilty. • Would go out some nights(not contact me at every ) drunk off his face • 2 weeks after my 21st bday he leaves me (october). Two weeks later, he comes running back • Book another holiday to go on over the new year • He starts acting silly again and 5 weeks after getting back together he dumps me- again • This time I crack and scream and sob at him, he leaves me alone in a park at night time • He cancels the holiday the next day • But exactly a week later,he gets into contact with me • We meet up, he wants me back. Claims that he is crazy about me, he loves me more than he had loved his possess wife. I am for him. I am like his drug, he doesn’t need anyone else and even though we battle he will never leave me again.Acknowledges EVERYTHING that he has done wrong.. and i am very taken back by it every! Too good to be true... • Buys me flowers, and he cries because he is so glad and relived “im back” • Xmas comes around, promises me that he will never leave me again and I will never have to worry about him leaving. • Book a holiday AGAIN and this time.. we go on it, just after the new year. • On the trip I basically paid for a lot more than i could afford. (I am a uni student and he works full time getting good money) • Got back after 10 days, he turns icy.. only sees me like 3-4 times in 2 weeks and exactly 2 weeks after getting back... he dumps me. “Oh im not in adore anymore”, “I care for u but as a person”. “We need to go our separate ways”. • Leaves me in a park • D/c his number He spoke to my mum two months after we split saying how unhappy he is still, and he thinks of me everyday, he really did adore me. Blah blah. You can say “oh he is an asshole” etc and I know this, but I am finding it extremely difficult to move on. For some reason I still want him to receive into contact with me. I feel like i deserve more than how he left it and he owes me in some way? I know the relationship sounds bad, but we actually had some really good times. I feel sick thinking about him with other women and I don’t understand why i wasn’t good enough? Does he think there is someone better out there? Do you think he will change or will he always be like this? Normally in the past when he had left me, he would have rang by now. He is also an extreme mummys boy and devoted brother to his sisters. I know they influene him A LOT. I need advice.. please. To peggy, the thing is... he is a real mummys boy. Does everything for his mum.. and always listens to her. And his sisters... he worships them. No one can ever be better then them... so i thought he would treat other women right.
18 May 2010, 5:08 am | click here to view more
Open Question: Valentines day is pointless? am i right?
Seriously every valentines day is some made up holiday invented by some greedy basterd every these marketers are promoting this so they can receive people to buy into this crap well at least only stupid people would i mean who invented this holiday anyways was it made up by a men or a lady and every these women its pathetic how they take this to the extreme and no im not sexist but arrive on every your doing guys is buying them fattening chocolate{like we have enough fat people on this planet} and for what just so you guys can break up a week later wow that makes a lot of sense and the same guys for Easter and Christmas i mean why can't you celebrate your adore for your women/man everyday their is no excuse for this day to exist except for marketers to make money off of stupid people willing to buy into this its every about greed on this day so whats your opinion on valentines day? i wanna kill the douche bag that created this holiday and even if i had a gf i still would say f8ck you im not getting you sh*t learn to receive it though your f*cking thick skull its a a day for scammers to make money
29 Jul 2010, 11:15 am | click here to view more
Resolved Question: Is everyone responsible for their own actions?
Your thoughts on how this could have been avoided - Please read. There have been four well-documented deaths caused directly by exhaustion from playing games for long periods. In South Korea, Lee Seung Seop died after playing Starcraft for over 50 hours.In Jinzhou, China, Xu Yan died after playing online games for over 15 days during the Lunar New Year holiday In India, New Delhi, a 21 year-old college student named Naminder Pal Singh Bagga suffered from extreme exhaustion and malnutrition, and ultimately starved to death while playing Fiesta Online daily for 3 months while he bunked his college. His roommates, Ramesh and Mandeep, tried to keep him but were unable to cease his excessive playing. An unnamed 30 year-old died in Guangzhou, China after playing for 3 days straight. What are we up against here ?
3 Jun 2010, 8:09 am | click here to view more
Open Question: What should i do with my BF?
I and my boyfriend are going out for about two years now. Since the beginning he told me he has trust issues and that i should be honest with him. Which i didn't, as he installed a key-logger on my computer and he found that i was (only) chatting with some guys i used to date and been intimately with (quite a few as I had some nice of hippie period. We got over it and i made everything possible to regain his trust. Then I discovered he has a password on his blackberry, which he wouldn’t share (gave me stupid reasons for it) plus he always hides his phone from me and that it is nice of embarrassing when other people are around. Before our 1 year anniversary he told me that he wants me to move out of his home and after our planned holiday we broke up for good. 1.5 month later he made efforts to receive back together, which we did. And then whole new fights about moving together and then we came to a settlement: we would nice of live together (he is referring to his home as "our place") but i would spend every Wednesday at my place. I forgot to tell you that the dude has a little bit of an alcohol problem: he drinks every day, but he gets drunk only in the weekends when, if i say something that he doesn't like, he becomes verbally aggressive. So our last Wednesday apart, he called me (we talk a lot on the phone in “hisfree day") and he was really drunk. I've asked him how the heck can you receive drunk on your possess....it's so lame, but let's say that what he told me, didn't make much sense then. Now i look that he's changed his Facebook password.... PS after he found about my chats, he left his computer on and i found that he was doing the same thing and he excused himself by saying that he did it because of what he saw on my computer. Then i found out lots of bad stuff about him..Like he basically used to be a cheater and assume he still is. So my questions are: 1. I know everybody values privacy but what the heck is this guy so afraid of? 2. Does every this mean he just doesn't care about me that much and that his extreme pride and self-adore are so much more important than my feelings? As right now i feel like his facebook account and f* phone are more important to him than me. 3. How can I ever trust him? I want that so badly!!! 3. What should I do when he swears me when he is drunk and the next morning says that he doesn’t remember 1 thing? 4. Is it a mistake that I have gotten back with him or that I am continuing this relationship knowing that I don’t ever what him as a husband or as the dad of my future kids. I am 24 and he is 30. Although i might have pictured him as a really bad guy, whenever our Egos are not involved, we receive along awesome: making each other giggle and basically resembling so much to each other. Sorry for my long post but these things are tormenting me for so long. I want to snooze at night and wake up not worrying about what do to anymore. Thanks guys.
29 Jul 2010, 10:04 am | click here to view more
Voting Question: Why Do I feel like this?
A year ago my mum went through a really difficult time in which she tried to commit suicide in front of me (it was in the car coming back from a clip short family holiday because my mum was sick. My dad had to restrain her from jumping out the car on a motorway) and was telling me she hated me (though I don't think she meant it, it still hurt) and now she's better, even if it did take a while. She had some nice of chemical imbalance from anti depression drugs and was having crap at work. But now that whole incident has just made my life hell, to put it bluntly. I hid away for age's, not wanting to look people or talk after it happened and was always down. I got happier, but something odd ha been happening for the past year. I go from being glad, and at the drop of a cap, even if whatever triggered it wasn't even mean or unusual, I just sink to an every time low. I keep switching between the two for about a week in each extreme. So one week I'm glad, next I'm not. On top of that, it seems that way with my friends. I could be in a "glad week" shall we call it and it's weird because in the glad week I feel comfortable around some friends and then not others. And then it switched round, so like I'm drifting between each of my friends. I know it's really bad explaining but it's like I was sat having a really glad conversation with one of my friends the other day, and then the day after I didn't want to be close her or felt bored in her prescence; like a nice of emptiness. I feel empty a lot. I hate it so much, I am such a horrible pal, and I want it to cease. I want it to go back to how I was efore every the stuff happened with my mum. I mean in one of my "unhappy weeks" I even tried self harming while my parents were out and didn't do it in time because they came in and stopped me. I was screaming and screaming in my room one time for help when my parent's were out as well, unable to cease myself.And then it just stops completely, and I go back to normal. What is this? because I'm really scared next time I have a "really bad week", which is worse than other bad weeks that i'll do something I regret. I just want help, really do, because I feel like a freak with the nice of thing I'm going through oh and in my "glad weeks" I always seem to manage to convince myself that I'm fine and thats probably why I haven't done anything about it.
29 May 2010, 10:51 am | click here to view more
Resolved Question: Shattered heart. Why can't I move on? Did I deserve this?
My boyfriend broke up with me three months ago. Two days later he also disconnected his number and he has never contacted me since. He has however spoken with my mum (2 months later) and told her how unhappy he is, and he thinks of me everyday but we shouldnt contact each other. He seems to receive confused and easily influenced by his family (extreme mummys boy and devoted brother). He has also been married before and is now divorced. We got together after his separation (obviously) and he then left me (that was the first time he left)... saying it was too soon but 2 months later he came back. Then for the relax of the time we were together he left me a couple more times and came back. He is 27 going on 28 and I am 21 going on 22. We went on a holiday together (he has previously canceled two on me before) but when we got back.. 2 weeks later he leaves me and now it has been 3 months and no contact. His reasons for leaving is always... ohh we are fighting... its not meant to be... i dont adore u as much anymore... blah blah. In the two years that we were together he has broken up with me 3 times, only to arrive running back because he didn’t want to lose me. He always claims how madly in adore he is with me. And the last time he came back to me (just before xmas) he promised me that he would never leave me again. He has hurt me so bad but i miss him horribly. I keep remembering everything he has said to me.. he even once stated that he loved me more than his possess wife. Four weeks after saying this.. he leaves. I dont understand what I have done? He always made me feel wrong but then he would acknowledge that it is actually him in the wrong. I cared and still do care for him very very much. I feel so sick thinking about him with other women. He was always a very visual man looking at other women and made me feel very insecure. The times he would break it off with me he would be out that same weekend mingling with women. He would admit this but when he gets back with me, he deletes their numbers and they never contact each other. I know he was going out like the same weekend we broke up, and it makes me sick. I don’t want him to be with someone else... i mean as in have another girlfriend. How can he adore someone the way he loved me and say the same things? Do you think he will ever change? Was it me? Is he always going to be like this...? I want him to receive into contact with me.. but we have not spoken! I feel so mad too.. i loved him with every my heart and I dont want him with someone else. Like.. why should he deserve to make another girl glad or treat another girl special when he treated me like crap? I dont understand. I know this sounds very confusing but I am extremely confused. DO you think he will contact me one day?? Does he think there is someone better for him?! I dont understand, is that why he treated me like that?
16 May 2010, 6:49 am | click here to view more
Resolved Question: Long question here, sorry :) How to show him I value our friendship.?
Hi guys, I know I keep asking questions on the same topic, every related to the same guy but I find it easy to ask on here as it is an environment so removed from reality, where no one is exposed to the situation in question, and therefore, can give totally objective and truthful answers. So, I don't want to bore you every again but...here it goes. I talk to this guy every the time on msn, he's a close family pal, and like what happens with every friends, conversations do die occasionally. I'm hoping that when we visit his family on holiday and I look him face to face again, maintaining an engaging conversation will be easier as we can react and comment on things that are going on around us. But anyway, he makes me giggle a lot, and although we like totally different things ( music, hobbies, etc ), our personalities compliment each other, and we receive along very well. Typically, he's not my type, but he's I think he's got an extremely infectious grin and gorgeous eyes:) He does act differently around me however, he seems shyer and more reserved. I receive the impression that he wants to receive to know me better, but doesn't know how. We joke around quite a bit, more through actions rather than words I have to say. To start with he just used to avoid me and was extremely shy, but last year, it every kinda changed, and he just wanted to be wherever I was, for instance, we went shopping, and knowing the nice of person he is, that's not his kinda thing, but he came anyway. Also, he jumped in the pool with me at like 12am for a bet, and obviously got completely drenched, but still seemed totally glad about it. Background story over and I wish you're not every dying of extreme boredom, I just want to know ways to build up the confidence to act completely comfortable around him. I don't want to be awkward around him, and I want him to know that I value him so much as a pal, and I don't think he realises that completely. look, I don't want to flirt as such, but I just want him to know he doesn't have to be so shy around me. Breaking the touch barrier would be great, but not in THAT way, just in the touchy feely way you would with any pal-hugging and stuff. Thank you so much if you have managed to read every of this, it's greatly appreciated. No silly comments please :) xx
23 Jul 2010, 2:38 pm | click here to view more
Resolved Question: Need help finding a relatively chav free holiday destination?
Basically I'm in a bit of a dilemma. The holidays I'm used to with my family are ones in quieter parts of Greece, so not very many proper clubs and nice bars and not very chavvy. It seemed to be more families and older couples. Or it was a couple of years back, no idea what it must be like now. Next year, I'm planning on going on holiday for 3 of my girl friends. However, they every want to go places where there are a lot of people our age and where there are clubs (we're every 18 atm). Thing is, I think wherever there are more younger people and clubs, the chavvier it'll be. Like Ibiza is my worst nightmare for a holiday. I had a look at Barcelona which is meant to be like in the middle of both extremes, but once you step off the beach you're in a city, and I don't look that as a relaxing holiday. Can anyone recommend somewhere that has people our age but isn't every about drinking and partying?
12 Jul 2010, 6:58 pm | click here to view more
Resolved Question: Does having your belly button hurt more if your skinny or overweight ?
Hi i'm 15 on September 28th this year and am thinking about having my belly button pieced.I have been called anerexic a few times because I look skinny I also look more skinny because I am tall (you cannot look my ribs and I eat more junk food than every of my friends, I do not think I am fat or make myself sick as you can look I am NOT anerexic!) but anyway I want to know if it hurts more if your skinny or overweight. I want to have it done before my holiday, I'm going to America in August this year but don't want to miss out of swimming in the pools and ocean. If I have it done before my holiday will I miss out on the swimming? Also i'm really scared although I never seem to back out of things (extreme rides, teeth out, for example) but I want to know did it hurt you? The last thing is I have heard it needs to be pierced with a ring how long do you need to wait before you can change it into a bar? -If I have it done it will be in a proper place (I will NOT be doing it myself) -Yes I do have my parents permission THE QUESTIONS -Does it hurt more if your skinny or overweight? -If I receive it done before my holiday will I miss out on the swimming? -How long do you need to wait before you can change the ring to a bar? -Did it hurt you? Please read before answering the questions, thank you! ;D x
13 Jun 2010, 6:16 am | click here to view more
Resolved Question: Four months to lose weight !!!!?
Okay, so for once I'm giving myself 4 months to lose weight and not 2 weeks. Im going for holidays in four months and really want to look good ! I've started a gym, but im still such a beginner & i only go once a week. So i still need help with other aspects. I do eat out ALOT and i eat rice ALOT, along with sweets, chocolates and drinks. I know that theres so much i can clip out, but i need someone to tell me how to slowly let go. Has anyone had any experience ? I've heard that just stopping sugar in food can help? Im 18, 165 cm and i weight 82 !!! So im a beast pretty much and need every the help and advice i can receive without it being too extreme, if not i will most probably give up. I wish someone out there understands me. Thanks in advance :D no im 165 cm and 82 KG. haha i wish i was skinny.
1 Jul 2010, 5:09 am | click here to view more
Resolved Question: what type of hormonal issue would this be?
i've been to so many different doctors, had blood work done innumerable times, ultrasounds, etc and no one seems to be able to provide a legitimate answer and solution. i've had a period since i've been about 11 or 12, and it was never normal. always for about two weeks if not more, extremely heavy, and a few times a year rather than once a month. it's never arrive at a specific time, always random (up to this day.) when i was around 14, i got a period for a month or two, extremely heavy, which drained so much blood that i was anemic for a short period of time due to low iron levels. the exhaustion appeared to parallel what friends would explain mono as (which i've also been tested for, it is not mono.) that was the main sign something was wrong and has occurred since. (also the main reason i decided to inquire.) they put me on a strong pill (a birth control pill, but a strong one not normally prescribed, don't remember the name.) and it was corrected, well, in the sense that it went how it did prior. as i got a few years older, it seemed to occur again similarly. they put me on a generic bc pill and kept attempting to patch up the issue. a gyn claimed my thyroid levels were slightly off, so slightly, to the point where it wouldn't effect anything. they also claimed i had polycystic ovary syndrome, but again, that it was so minor that there was really nothing to do about it. there were also no cysts, as proved on multiple ultrasounds. doctors have recently just been trying to patch it with different pills and methods. my current gyn wants to take me off the pill entirely and look how that works - a method that before proved to be even worse and make the bleeding heavy and more or less constant, and i don't want to go through every that just for my new gyn (old one retired) to more or less experiment. i'm currently on yaz and taking it constantly and once more reached a period of more or less constant bleeding for two months. it's quite light, but along with this, comes the extreme exhaustion, constant headaches, along with random aches, occasion stomach cramps, odd eating habits, bad skin, and extreme (and entirely random) anxiety caused over nothing particular. i'm not sure if this would play a part, but within the past year or two, i never seem to receive a period unless an event is coming up, literally. the only time i got a period was a day before or after leaving for vacation, a day or on a holiday, etc. my last period started on my birthday and hasn't stopped since. i'm not sure if anything could actually cause such. it's been a huge burden on my life since starting a period and i've been to doctor upon doctor, primary physicians, emergency rooms, gyn's, etc. most can explain that something appeared off, but haven't a clue what to do for me. others write it off as hypochondria. does anyone have any advice, as i'm going back to another doctor which will likely be pointless. i've also researched this to little avail of my possess. as much information as you could give would be helpful.
16 May 2010, 10:31 pm | click here to view more
Resolved Question: Really need help/advice. I don't understand and I haven't felt better over time.?
My boyfriend broke up with me three months ago. Two days later he also disconnected his number and he has never contacted me since. He has however spoken with my mum (2 months later) and told her how unhappy he is, and he thinks of me everyday but we shouldnt contact each other. He seems to receive confused and easily influenced by his family (extreme mummys boy and devoted brother). He has also been married before and is now divorced. We got together after his separation (obviously) and he then left me (that was the first time he left)... saying it was too soon but 2 months later he came back. Then for the relax of the time we were together he left me a couple more times and came back. He is 27 going on 28 and I am 21 going on 22. We went on a holiday together (he has previously canceled two on me before) but when we got back.. 2 weeks later he leaves me and now it has been 3 months and no contact. His reasons for leaving is always... ohh we are fighting... its not meant to be... i dont adore u as much anymore... blah blah. In the two years that we were together he has broken up with me 3 times, only to arrive running back because he didn’t want to lose me. He always claims how madly in adore he is with me. And the last time he came back to me (just before xmas) he promised me that he would never leave me again. He has hurt me so bad but i miss him horribly. I keep remembering everything he has said to me.. he even once stated that he loved me more than his possess wife. Four weeks after saying this.. he leaves. I dont understand what I have done? He always made me feel wrong but then he would acknowledge that it is actually him in the wrong. I cared and still do care for him very very much. I feel so sick thinking about him with other women. He was always a very visual man looking at other women and made me feel very insecure. The times he would break it off with me he would be out that same weekend mingling with women. He would admit this but when he gets back with me, he deletes their numbers and they never contact each other. I know he was going out like the same weekend we broke up, and it makes me sick. I don’t want him to be with someone else... i mean as in have another girlfriend. How can he adore someone the way he loved me and say the same things? Do you think he will ever change? Was it me? Is he always going to be like this...? I want him to receive into contact with me.. but we have not spoken! I feel so mad too.. i loved him with every my heart and I dont want him with someone else. Like.. why should he deserve to make another girl glad or treat another girl special when he treated me like crap? I dont understand. I know this sounds very confusing but I am extremely confused. DO you think he will contact me one day?? Does he think there is someone better for him?! I dont understand, is that why he treated me like that?
17 May 2010, 3:05 am | click here to view more
Resolved Question: I desperately want to find love, but I obsess over people so much I am afraid of having my heart broken?
When meeting new people I am usually quite shy, but not with people I know. I adore confident people who are friendly and open because I feel better and more confient about myself. I am such a desperate romantic, but have never met anyone...instead when I meet guys whose character is so strong and attractive, I often become a bit obsessed with them. I have just returned from a short holiday, where I met some lovely people -men- but now i am filled with nothing but a profound regret at how I acted, I wish i has been more confident and enthusuastic and responsive. A particluar guy, whom, to my intense regret, i only met towards the very end of our stay, seemed lovely and charming and appeared to like me but I was too shy to show my character properly. I can;t help but sob at how I will never look these people again, it feels like grief and I can;t cease thinking about him, and what *could have*. I become so attached to people who show a slight interest in me, i believe myself to adore them, and I just know that in a real relationship, although I will revel in it, if it were to end (as is bound to happen at some point in one;s life) I will become deeply deeply depressed and self-pitiful. I just feel so overwhelmed with my sorrowful feelings at the moment, and I know they are extreme, but I know the nice of passionate, extremely sensitive person I am and fear what it means. Has anyone any advice for how to let go of people and obsessive thoughts or 'fantasies' which I indulge in so often to make me feel better?
12 Jul 2010, 5:57 pm | click here to view more
Resolved Question: Thorpe Park Or Alton Towers?
I'm having trouble picking a theme park for my summer holidays. I adore extreme rides so I checked out both the websites to compare. These were the extreme rides for Alton Towers: Th13teen Air Oblivion The Blade Nemesis Ripsaw Rita: Queen of Speed Submission While these were the ones for Thorpe Park: Saw- The Ride Stealth Colossus Detonator Nemesis Inferno Rush Samurai Slammer Vortex X://No Way Out I noticed that Thorpe Park has more rides but I'm keen on riding Oblivion too. I'm really not sure. I've never been to either so it'll be nice. I was just wondering which had shorter queues, more thrilling rides and just overall a good theme park. Also, I've realised that some of the rides are very similar. Help? :) Thanks =]
14 May 2010, 6:57 am | click here to view more
Open Question: Is This Belly Water Retention-If So What Would You Suggest? (Male)?
For years now I have had a belly-I am not fat but I do look like I am pregnant at times. When I say I am not fat I have slim arms and toned legs. I do Yoga and a lot of cycling! Occasionally I look as slim as I have ever been, no pregnant belly nothing. The last time I looked like this was a few months ago. I ate a massive fried breakfast followed by nothing else every day. I did not exercise either; this was whilst I was on holiday-hence the big breakfast. If I did 100 sit ups each day for a month I would be confident of being slim again. I don’t drink alcohol to the extreme-the last pint of beer I had was five weeks ago. But I have been thinking recently Could it be water retention and if so what could I take food wise to minimise this? Thank you
27 Jul 2010, 9:06 am | click here to view more
Resolved Question: dog having eye removed?
my lab/shepherd mix got out yesterday and don't know for sure but believe she got hit by a car. Immediately took her to the vet, where she is now. they said her eye ruptured (not the word they used but basically the same thing) they are suppose to take her eye out tomorrow morning and i can pick her up on Tuesday. My problem is that i have reasons for wanting a second opinon due to this vet clinic. I have grasped the fact that this is probably going to have to happen but i would feel much more comfortable with a 2nd opinion. The only reason i took her to this particular place was they have her records and it was the closest place. I was totally freaking out when this happened and i truly don't know what to do, i am just having extreme doubts! She is at the vet on pain medication, etc. so please don't receive into that. i have the money to receive done whatever needs to be done. my problem is this is a holiday weekend, the other vet that i would like to give me an opinion and treat her doesn't open until Tuesday. Does anyone know if this would hurt my dog if i got her tomorrow and took her on Tuesday to the other vet? Penny is my baby and i adore her to death and will even if she has to have her eye taken out. I am just extremely worried i am making the wrong choice/wrong vet. I guess i would just like some advice and assurance! We used to take her to this clinic and started taking her another one just recently. The only reason i took her to this one is i honestly didn't think it was anything other than a bad clip, plus it was the closest, i was freaking out. The reason she isn't having the surgery til tomorrow is because that is what the vet wanted. (Like i said she has been at the vet's since yesterday)She is on antibiotics and pain meds. The problem i am having is that i am starting to question this vet's opinion. For Instance if it was such an emergency how arrive they are waiting til tomorrow to do the surgery. I will do anything and everything i can to make the right decision, money isn't the problem. This is a holiday weekend is the problem. Also the vets office she is at is open on Monday, they don't consider it a holiday since the 4th is today.
4 Jul 2010, 7:03 pm | click here to view more
Resolved Question: What is wrong with me?
Well first, don't take this down to hormones - cause hormones are changing a way of life gradually, not in continuous cycles like this. Anyway first a little about me: I am a nearly 16 year old boy, mega shy person and a "very nice person" according to my mum - however younger (birth to about 12 years) i had severe aggression, one month i can be good, the other a screaming little git. Since 12 onwards i have been getting depression on a monthly or fortnightly basis, some extreme and some mild. Nothing seems to cause it. The last time I experienced any pleasure (or anything that i MILDLY got excited for) was my 12th birthday, I got excited for it and I have every memory saved of that day - it was glorious! Now though, I dont receive excited for my birthday/christmas/going on holiday etc. I also have big trouble making or starting a conversation in real life, even my best pal is noticing it and he isnt becoming so-bestfriendish no more :( However, everything isnt every so upsetting - every other week and can be extremely glad, i talk quick and i actually start being myself. But it's short lived... Another thing is that i am sensitive to the temperature (probably very unrelated) - anything over room temperature I overheat and go beserk. Last time I threw a knife, i have absolutely no control over myself in those situations.. :( Thanks i wish somebody has a similar situation - my mum is getting me checked out for bipolar at 16 and also diabetes
23 Jul 2010, 9:57 am | click here to view more
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Resolved Question: Should children pay their parents 'Keep Money'?
I for one, feel it very insincere and wrong to expect that from their kids. It is a custom that parents adopt that can be so extreme, that they boot their possess kids out of said home for not paying them let's say, £200 of their £800 wage per month. Why should kids be expected to pay their parents such a big sum? I agree that it does add up in costs for food, but if a child is prepared to buy their possess food with their possess money, then why would any parent expect money from their wage? Is it to have them pay you back for every the days you spent on them as kids, on holidays, birthday's, etc? If that's the case. Why would anyone have a child for a future investment in keep money, and not for a loving family? What do you think. I'm sorry, but to some answers, i fail to look the reason of ''taking their money to emulate what rent is like to give them experience is essential'' Letting them keep 100% of their savings is essential so that they may better afford their possess nest when they leave the home.
15 Jul 2010, 5:26 am | click here to view more
Voting Question: Need advice, please!! Very heartbroken and it is affecting everything I do! How can it stop?!?
My boyfriend broke up with me three months ago. Two days later he also disconnected his number and he has never contacted me since. He has however spoken with my mum (2 months later) and told her how unhappy he is, and he thinks of me everyday but we shouldnt contact each other. He seems to receive confused and easily influenced by his family (extreme mummys boy and devoted brother). He has also been married before and is now divorced. We got together after his separation (obviously) and he then left me (that was the first time he left)... saying it was too soon but 2 months later he came back. Then for the relax of the time we were together he left me a couple more times and came back. He is 27 going on 28 and I am 21 going on 22. We went on a holiday together (he has previously canceled two on me before) but when we got back.. 2 weeks later he leaves me and now it has been 3 months and no contact. His reasons for leaving is always... ohh we are fighting... its not meant to be... i dont adore u as much anymore... blah blah. In the two years that we were together he has broken up with me 3 times, only to arrive running back because he didn’t want to lose me. He always claims how madly in adore he is with me. And the last time he came back to me (just before xmas) he promised me that he would never leave me again. He has hurt me so bad but i miss him horribly. I keep remembering everything he has said to me.. he even once stated that he loved me more than his possess wife. After saying this I dont understand what I have done? He always made me feel wrong but then he would acknowledge that it is actually him in the wrong. I cared and still do care for him very very much. I feel so sick thinking about him with other women. He was always a very visual man looking at other women and made me feel very insecure. The times he would break it off with me he would be out that same weekend mingling with women. He would admit this but when he gets back with me, he deletes their numbers and they never contact each other. I know he was going out like the same weekend we broke up, and it makes me sick. I don’t want him to be with someone else... i mean as in have another girlfriend. How can he adore someone the way he loved me and say the same things? Do you think he will ever change? Was it me? Is he always going to be like this...? I want him to receive into contact with me.. but we have not spoken! I feel so mad too.. i loved him with every my heart and I dont want him with someone else. Like.. why should he deserve to make another girl glad or treat another girl special when he treated me like crap? I dont understand.
16 May 2010, 6:01 am | click here to view more
Resolved Question: Should I go on a camp?
yeah I'm just asking this 'cause I'm bored... but next holidays I'm thinking about going on a "camp" for a week, I haven't been on a non-school camp for years.. although it's not long, I'll know no-one, plus it is a christian camp... My next holidays are only 2 weeks, so I'd be on camp for half of them.. but my mum works everyday, so it's not like I can do anything anyway... this is what the website says, " full of heaps of activities, electives and surprises to MAXXimise your September Holidays. Electives include Laser Force, Go-Karting, Surfing, 10 Pin Bowling, Extreme Fishing, Shopping, heaps of time at the beach and a Dance Party with the works. Experience awesome community, meet great people, and ponder some of life's big questions " thoughts? I'm 15, and live in Australia. the camp is for year 8,9,10,11 and 12... haha year 12 is like 12th grade.. like 17 or 18
9 Jul 2010, 1:00 am | click here to view more
Resolved Question: Is my mom a control freak?
Whenever I arrive home for the holidays from college, my mom has extreme mood swings. One day, she will be glad if I look my friends. The next day, she will be screaming and wondering why I am not studying at every times. Whenever I do hang with my friends, she has to know everything about what I am doing, when I will be back, and even the food I ate when I hung out with my friends. She does this with my sister and even my cousins as well. She will call my cousin and ask them to arrive home for dinner and if they can't, she will whine about it and do everything she can to make her arrive. For my sister, she makes her play an instrument which my sister hates but my mom loves even though my sister has repeatedly said she dislikes it and wants to quit..to make things worse, she sucks up a ton to her violin teacher and goes the extra mile to help the teacher out in any way possible. My sister and the teacher both know my sister has no interest in violin but my teacher is too scared to tell my mom that my sister doesn't want to play especially with every my mom does for her. She feels the need to arrange every of my cousins' marriages and if any of my cousins do not like the boy/girl that my mom suggests, she takes serious offense at it. She treats anyone that is not married, is her relative, and in a younger generation as a child yet she does not do anything useful to help them out. When my cousin was moving out, she yelled at my cousin for not telling her earlier than the day before she was moving out ..yet when my cousin asked for help on the last day, she just stood around and didn't do anything productive to help her out. Thanks for your time to look at this..I really want to find out what I can do to solve this situation..anyone who does will receive the best answer if you try telling her that she needs to sometimes calm down, she takes serious offense and will yell and go mad
5 Jul 2010, 2:32 pm | click here to view more